by Tonya Ladipo Why is it that it is so easy to hear and accept criticism from people who do not care about us or worse are mean to us? Many years ago an older, Black woman pulled me aside and very clearly told me not to listen to people who don’t love me. “But…

by Tonya Ladipo Warrior (n.) “a person who fights in battles and is known for having courage and skill” or “a person who shows or has shown great vigor or courage.” Many of my clients are warriors though they seldom see themselves this way. They fight many battles, sometimes externally and sometimes internally, and they…

by Tonya Ladipo This evening I was on Fox 29’s 5:00pm newscast. They contacted me to talk about mothers in the workplace and what is (or is not appropriate) to discuss. As soon as I have access to the link I will post it here. A brief review: Be human and honest. If you have…

by Tonya Ladipo How is it that we can struggle with making changes that we know are good for us? We all have big and little things that we could do differently and it would significantly improve our lives. So why is it that going to bed earlier, writing about our feelings, or seeing our…

by Tonya Ladipo Recently I’ve worked with some clients who are struggling to be emotionally intimate and also maintain a separateness from their loved one. I’ve seen this struggle with friendships, intimate partnerships, and even in the parent-child relationship. For some, having the As simple as it may seem, the first step is acknowledging the…