Demote Yourself to Happiness!
My 6 year old demoted herself in gymnastics and I couldn’t have been more proud. After two weeks of intense, 3-day a week practices she said that she loved gymnastics but was tired and school was more important than gymnastics. So she demoted herself. At 6 years old she knew her priorities, her limits, and […]
Catch It – Check It – Correct It: 3 Steps to Changing Self-Doubt
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to spend time and energy on something (or someone) that isn’t good for you? Whether it’s seeing the seemingly perfect lives of everyone on Facebook or spending time with someone who constantly complains and criticizes it’s easy to find yourself in a situation that leaves you feeling empty […]
Don’t Believe the Hype! Change Your Feelings of Unworthiness
So often we get different and mixed messages from those who love us and the larger society. For every parent, sibling, or friend who supports and encourages us there are others telling us how unworthy, undeserving, or unlovable we are. And in spite of ourselves it can be easier to listen to the negativity and hurtful […]
Working Hard doesn’t Make Self-Care Impossible
Recently someone questioned if I was being hypocritical talking about self-care because I work hard and have high standards for myself and others. I realized a fundamental misunderstanding (or perhaps just difference of opinion) in her statement. Self-care isn’t about total relaxation all of the time. In fact it’s the opposite. Self-care is about re-energizing […]
Silence Prevents Us from Healing – Lessons from Maya Angelou
When I first heard Maya Angelou speak I was captivated by her strength and openness to talk about her life as a Black woman. Yet she spent six years of her life in silence. How many of us within the Black community are living in silence? Keeping secrets that don’t need to be kept, worries […]
