Have you ever noticed how easy it is to spend time and energy on something (or someone) that isn’t good for you? Whether it’s seeing the seemingly perfect lives of everyone on Facebook or spending time with someone who constantly complains and criticizes it’s easy to find yourself in a situation that leaves you feeling empty…
So often kids are given a time-out for acting up or acting out. Maybe they’re irritable, tired, or hungry. But as parents, teachers, and eye witnesses know, they just aren’t acting right! So they go to time-out, cool off, take time away from the stressful situation and regroup. There are some simple lessons for us…
So often we get different and mixed messages from those who love us and the larger society. For every parent, sibling, or friend who supports and encourages us there are others telling us how unworthy, undeserving, or unlovable we are. And in spite of ourselves it can be easier to listen to the negativity and hurtful…
Why is it so hard for us to say no to one thing so that we can say yes to another? Are we stuck on this concept that we can have everything that we want all of the time? Do we really believe that we can have absolutely everything without making sacrifices? When my husband…
Recently someone questioned if I was being hypocritical talking about self-care because I work hard and have high standards for myself and others. I realized a fundamental misunderstanding (or perhaps just difference of opinion) in her statement. Self-care isn’t about total relaxation all of the time. In fact it’s the opposite. Self-care is about re-energizing…
When I first heard Maya Angelou speak I was captivated by her strength and openness to talk about her life as a Black woman. Yet she spent six years of her life in silence. How many of us within the Black community are living in silence? Keeping secrets that don’t need to be kept, worries…
With summer unofficially here it’s time to prepare for the season. As you have more responsibilities (career, children, partners, homes, etc.) relaxation and enjoyment doesn’t just happen. You have to actively prepare and plan for it. Rather than kick yourself at the end of the summer with a long list of “I wish I had”…
Nothing says self-care like surrounding yourself with people who want the best for you! These are the friends, co-workers, family members, and partners who truly want you to succeed in life. There are plenty of naysayers around which is why having someone in your corner is essential to a good life. These people, your ride…
Moving from one activity to the next can be really challenging. Though it may seem simple, switching gears from work to break time to work and then home is a difficult one. Different roles require different parts of ourselves to be at the forefront. The outspoken leader at work may require a shift when coming home…
Superwomen are used to juggling an enormous amount of responsibility and tasks at any given moment. Though they may be tired, overwhelmed, and even frustrated they keep juggling until something eventually drops. Whether you have too many responsibilities, don’t have enough support, or just because you’re human, at some point you’ll drop the ball. You…
