Catch It – Check It – Correct It: 3 Steps to Changing Self-Doubt

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to spend time and energy on something (or someone) that isn’t good for you? Whether it’s seeing the seemingly perfect lives of everyone on Facebook or spending time with someone who constantly complains and criticizes it’s easy to find yourself in a situation that leaves you feeling empty […]

Choosing Joy in the Midst of Despair

“Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.” Henri Nouwen It may seem odd to consider this on the day that Michael Brown’s family must bury their son. The murder, injustice, and despair can make joy seem impossible or certainly unattainable. And sadly Michael Brown no […]

Don’t Believe the Hype! Change Your Feelings of Unworthiness

So often we get different and mixed messages from those who love us and the larger society. For every parent, sibling, or friend who supports and encourages us there are others telling us how unworthy, undeserving, or unlovable we are. And in spite of ourselves it can be easier to listen to the negativity and hurtful […]

Silence Prevents Us from Healing – Lessons from Maya Angelou

When I first heard Maya Angelou speak I was captivated by her strength and openness to talk about her life as a Black woman. Yet she spent six years of her life in silence. How many of us within the Black community are living in silence? Keeping secrets that don’t need to be kept, worries […]

Solving the Superwoman Complex

Many women suffer from what I consider the Superwoman Complex. They juggle many responsibilities and roles, strive for perfection, and look like they have it all. Yet there is a significant cost to the image of having it all together all of the time. Perfection is impossible. And striving for perfection gives you a constant […]