Secret to Self-Care without being Selfish
I used to go straight from work to pick up my children at school. They would rush to hug me with dirty hands, there would be the loud chatter of a school, and they would immediately launch into telling me about their day. I was on sensory overload and all I wanted to do was […]
How to Maintain Your Relationship When One Person Changes
I am excited to share that I was recently accepted to be a Topic Expert on GoodTherapy.org. This month I share ways to continue your relationship and stay connected to your partner even when one person changes. Over the course of a long-term relationship, you are bound to change. But self-growth doesn’t necessarily have to […]
Slow Down the Busy-ness of Life
Last week I heard Dr. Robin Smith speak and she made a comment that has been in my head ever since. She said, “so often we spend time flapping our wings.” Flapping our wings is the running around and feeling overwhelmed with too much to do the anxiety. It is the busy-ness of life. “How […]
Be Kind, Not Nice
I stopped being nice several years ago. It left me drained and constantly lacking in relationships so I decided to stop being nice. For me being nice felt like a one-way street. I did what I thought would make other people happy. Sometimes I was right and my “niceness” would make them happy. And many […]
What do you owe and to whom?
Have you ever lost yourself in a relationship? I mean lost yourself in a way that you or people who know you don’t recognize. Where you look in the mirror, or someone says, “Who are you because you’re not the person that I know.” We have all been in relationships that don’t work. And the reasons […]
