Rage is a Gift
I come from a line of defiant and rageful women. Rage is what spurred my mother to get a PhD. when her high school guidance counselor told her that she wasn’t smart enough to go to college. Rage is what caused my grandmother to leave her husband and raise 5 children on her own without […]
Be Kind, Not Nice
I stopped being nice several years ago. It left me drained and constantly lacking in relationships so I decided to stop being nice. For me being nice felt like a one-way street. I did what I thought would make other people happy. Sometimes I was right and my “niceness” would make them happy. And many […]
What do you owe and to whom?
Have you ever lost yourself in a relationship? I mean lost yourself in a way that you or people who know you don’t recognize. Where you look in the mirror, or someone says, “Who are you because you’re not the person that I know.” We have all been in relationships that don’t work. And the reasons […]
Sex After Baby, it is possible!
Your entire life changes when you have a baby. Money, sleep, and energy are all in short supply. The dramatic change also has a significant effect on your relationship. Given a typical and healthy delivery, many doctors and midwives recommend that you abstain from sexual intercourse for six weeks after having a baby. While six […]
Scared of Change? Me Too!
“I’m freaking out, I need you to talk me off the ledge.” This is what I wrote to a friend yesterday. My stomach was in knots and I was having trouble focusing. I knew what was happening but I couldn’t contain it alone. I am in the midst of change. And when I am my […]