Be Kind, Not Nice
I stopped being nice several years ago. It left me drained and constantly lacking in relationships so I decided to stop being nice. For me being nice felt like a one-way street. I did what I thought would make other people happy. Sometimes I was right and my “niceness” would make them happy. And many […]
What do you owe and to whom?
Have you ever lost yourself in a relationship? I mean lost yourself in a way that you or people who know you don’t recognize. Where you look in the mirror, or someone says, “Who are you because you’re not the person that I know.” We have all been in relationships that don’t work. And the reasons […]
Sex After Baby, it is possible!
Your entire life changes when you have a baby. Money, sleep, and energy are all in short supply. The dramatic change also has a significant effect on your relationship. Given a typical and healthy delivery, many doctors and midwives recommend that you abstain from sexual intercourse for six weeks after having a baby. While six […]
Scared of Change? Me Too!
“I’m freaking out, I need you to talk me off the ledge.” This is what I wrote to a friend yesterday. My stomach was in knots and I was having trouble focusing. I knew what was happening but I couldn’t contain it alone. I am in the midst of change. And when I am my […]
“Problem Child” Isn’t the same for Black children
I was reading Dr. Peggy Drexler’s Problem Child on Huffington Post about what to do when your child is the school “problem child.” It has some great tips on what parents can do to help their children but it is very clearly written for White families. Dr. Drexler recounts the story of “Ben” who in Kindergarten pushed a child to […]