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You Can’t be Everything to Everyone

I am beyond overwhelmed these days. I’m wrapping up an intense class that I’ve been taking since January. My work is expanding in ways that are stretching me. And I still need and want to be present for my family and friends. A good friend reminded me to take my own advice so as I sat down to journal I was reminded …

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How to Say No like a Boss and Still be a Lady

As women we get so tripped up in being nice that we don’t consider our own needs. We give automatic yeses to situations that require nos. We agonize over saying no. What will they think? What if they think I’m a b*itch? What if they don’t ask me again? runs through our heads. How many events have you attended because …

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4 Simple Ways to Stay Sane this Holiday Season

The many invitations and obligations at this time of year causes a lot of stress. It’s supposed to be full of joy and laughter but for many it’s full of stress and overwhelm. But it doesn’t have to be that way! You can infuse joy back into ths season with these simple tips for having a sane and balanced holiday …

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#dearblackgirl

As a mother of two girls I’m particularly drawn to the #dearblackgirl campaign encouraging us to write letters sharing our experiences of black girlhood. It’s a chance to reflect on our own childhoods and our visions for today’s girls. Janelle Harris of The Root shares her letter from the soul. What will your letter say? 

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11 Secrets of Happy People

Have you ever met a person who seems to good to be true? Someone who is so kind and generous and happy that it makes you pause? Not only do those people exist but it’s possible to be one of them.  11 Secrets of Happy People has a great list of ways you can be among those who call themselves …

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Back to School Best Practices

Going back to school can be hard for kids and grown-ups alike! Dr. Lovern Moseley explains more and gives great tips in Back to School Best Practices. My favorite takeaways are: Get enough sleep! Parents and children both need their zzzzzs. Keep a daily routine. Knowing when you’ll sleep, wake, eat, and play makes transitioning back to school easier.   …

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Fall Beginnings & Transitions

September seemed to appear out of nowhere and here we are saying goodbye to another summer and hello to another fall. Though this happens every year it is still a process of transitioning into a new phase. Whether you’re transitioning in a new school year, work assignment, or life phase transitions can be challenging for all of us. Here are …

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Black women, depression & suicide

Margo Jefferson writes poignantly about her depression and thoughts of suicide. It’s not limited to the middle/upper class though. ow many Black women do you know who suffer from depression? Are you one of them? Whether it manifests as not being able to get out of bed, avoiding friends and family, or living without joy,  depression is something that affects …

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Summer Takeaways

This has been a summer of milestones for me. I turned 40. Went surfing for the first time. And mourned the loss of a friend. In the days since surfing and the funeral I’ve been thinking about how necessary it is for us to fully live the life that we have been given. I get caught up in the details of …

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To-Don’t List for Peace of Mind

We’re all too familiar with to-do lists. Supposedly they keep you organized and productive. The seemingly endless lists also adds the burden of anxiety and feeling overwhelmed that you’ll never complete what’s on your list. Rather than create another to-do list try making a to-don’t list. A to-don’t list is a quick checklist to use when planning your day, activity, …